How telling her Ugly Duckling Story changed her life – Part Two

Telling her Ugly Duckling Story changed her life

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The first meeting of Beautifully Made was eye opening in its own way and not in the way that I had initially expected. The young ladies who attended were those that I knew back in my high school days and had not talked to in over two years.

Actually, the last time I remember genuinely having a conversation with them was at a funeral for someone we all knew either from church or school. After the death everyone fell apart, whatever problems we each had were pushed to the forefront and we just spaced apart.

Incidentally, this is what we talked the most about because many of them had pinpointed the death to the most difficult moment of whatever addictions and demons they had.

This seemed to bring out a lot of confessions that at the time they would never confess to. All of them were “recovered,” but they never would tell others because of shame, and the fear of being thought of as “crazy.” None of us agree with the term “recovered” because there is no end to recovery.

There are good days and bad days, but the point is this mere fact is why we all needed to be a part of this support group.

It’s the fear of judgement

We all need a safe place where we are not called “crazy,” but can identify pieces of ourselves within one another. What keeps the majority of people from talking about hard moments in their lives is the fear of the judgment and the cruel words that always seems to follow that judgment.

Let go of fearEven when people receive the treatment that they need, words still hurt; we just learn better ways to cope with the pain we feel. This became extremely apparent to me the next morning when I was talking to a woman that I often see at the gym I attend.

She had overheard me invite her daughter to the meeting and she approached me the next day to confess that she used to have an eating disorder and she is still having a lot of difficulty with her addiction.

She was afraid to come to the meeting because of her fear of others knowing she had a few problems.

My eyes are now open to how common such fear is and what actions need to be taken.

Those with any kind of addiction or emotional problems should not be looked down on in shame just because others do not understand the battles they have had to face. There is a certain level of ignorance that is still held by many in the world today concerning psychological issues, and all things related with how the mind works differently for different people.

Anyone struggling with a mental health issue should be able to reach out freely without concerns of stigmatization.

I will be the first to admit that sometimes I do not know how to solve this problem, but maybe, just maybe this could be the very first step to making it happen.

– Emily

Emily is 20 years old, and lives in North Carolina. For years she struggled with depression, an eating disorder, and self-harm. About five years down the line she decided to share her story in the hopes of helping others with similar struggles. After the idea came about, the rest is history.


How telling her Ugly Duckling Story changed her life

Beautifully made
We are still in awe with this beautiful post by Emily, whose Ugly Duckling Story we shared a couple of months ago. Here’s part 1 of Beautifully Made. Make sure you leave comments for her below!

Ever since I shared my story with Ugly Ducklings Inc, my perception on events have changed and many of them I saw mirrored in my daily life.

The idea of Beautifully Made came up about a year ago, but I really had no basis for it when I was still battling within myself. However, I decided to re-launch this cause recently because the timing was finally right.

After I finally got my story out there it has been easier to smile and I want others to be able to feel that joy as well. Recently I revisited my old church where many teenage girls were talking about their life problems and that is when I realized that maybe the deep scars only brought by those closest to you are not that uncommon.

There were a massive amount that were abandoned by their fathers or were abused and each of them seemed to be taking it out on themselves. Whether with cutting, an eating disorder, or drugs, they were experiencing shame and pain beyond measure because of what someone else had done to them.

What Beautifully Made was created for is a safe haven for these young ladies to share their stories and gradually come to the point of acceptance. Teaching them that what may have happened was never their fault and to try and teach them to love every part of themselves.

When someone has hurt you to the point of destroying a large part of you, there is a space of darkness that eats you alive.

Only when you accept what happened, forgive whoever had done it, and release that pain can you really go forward.

That is the objective that I am trying to accomplish with this growing group. No story is too deep and damaged that you cannot recover from it.

The core of what we stand for is within Psalm 139, it is a very good projection of what we will all try to understand about ourselves and the world around us.

Psalm 139

We are starting as a small group meeting at a friend’s house and a Facebook page, but I am hoping that we can make the idea spread.

This is not just a problem in the small state of North Carolina, it is worldwide. Even giving just the smallest bit of hope to those going down similar paths that we have previously walked through can mean all the difference.

Even if you are still recovering from old wounds you can help influence others for the better.

I guess I’m just trying to say that whatever you have been through or are going through, every piece of you is beautiful.

– Emily

Emily is 20 years old, and lives in North Carolina. For years she struggled with depression, an eating disorder, and self-harm.  About five years down the line she decided to share her story in the hopes of helping others with similar struggles.  After the idea came about, the rest is history.