Have you ever actually asked yourself why you have low self-esteem?
1. Was it because everyone teased you in school and you felt ugly since then?
2. Was it something more like, internal, something was wrong with how you saw yourself?
3. Was it your parents and family who told you that you weren’t pretty? (Oh! Dear, I hope not)
I have to say I think I fit into Number 1. I have a huge nose, and I’m quite skinny and it stands out a lot. You could say that it was actually what all my classmates saw: they just laughed at me and made funny jokes about my not so stylized facial trait.
What if LOTS of people that walked by you, people you played softball or basketball with, people you met at a painting class, men with long hair, women with big feet and funny ears; a lanky guy with sideburns, a girl with bags under her eyes…
What if they never gave themselves a chance to talk to you just because you didn’t fit the standard? -and vice versa, I might add.
Here’s a moving, powerful, honest testimony by Dustin Hoffman about this:
Firstly, I’m letting my fangirl side come out just to say I L-O-V-E Dustin and his performance on Tootsie. The wonderful thing about discovering this statement by him just makes everything (the movie, and his talents) even more valuable, because it was *so* much more than dressing up as a woman to get a job…so much more.
“It was at that moment that I had an epiphany, and I went home and started crying [Dustin breaks up]…talking to my wife, and I said: ‘I have to make this picture’. And she said: ‘Why?’
“I said: ‘Because I think I’m an interesting woman'”
Remember that Ratatouille scene where Anton Ego goes back in time after tasting the dish? Well, that’s how I felt after listening to Dustin say that. I wanted to shout to ALL those boys out there: I am an interesting woman.
“I know that if I met myself at a party, I would never talk to that character because she doesn’t fulfill, physically, the demands that we’re brought up to think that women have to have in order for us to ask them out.”
“There’s too many interesting women I have not had the experience to know in this life because
I have been brainwashed.”
Us, Ugly Ducklings, have been brainwashed too, and we may have missed out on great friendships, and amazing people. But what is truly remarkable about this three-minute video is that now we have someone else’s point of view. The point of view of someone who was a man and who really wanted to be a woman, and then realized that he was never going to look more beautiful than what the makeup artists from the movie could do…
He realized he had missed out on kind, wonderful, unique human beings.
It gives me hope, that perhaps more people will get to go through that and be brave enough to share their experiences. Either that or that this video keeps spreading.
Yes, my hope is also that we all get to learn from this, and start looking at life, and others in a completely different way…